Here is a concept not previously considered in any depth. One that was forced on me last night whilst watching television with my hysterical mother and Pickling Friend.
I have thought on the complexities of Love At First Sight and its likelihood [not very]. I have wandered about the effects of Love Sickness and Puppy Love. I'm not sure I have experienced either. How can you be Love Sick and not hate the person who is making you Love Sick?
Anyway - Blind Love is apparently a phenomenon where you are fall madly in love but cannot see the disaster you are about to encounter. Where you cannot fight your way out of a relationship that is fundamentally unstable. No, not unstable, damaging.
Love it seems is subjective. Perhaps not a surprise to most people. But think of how love is marketed. How we commercialise, package and deliver love - in films, in advertising, in product promotion, in sport, on animal rescue programs, on television. We have a single view of love. We are sold a one-time-one-stop-solution-if-you-feel-like-this-then-its-love theory. In our society now this has even less restrictions than it used to; you can now love someone of the same sex, or of a different race/culture/religion, you can marry an animal, you can fall in love with some decades older/younger than yourself, you can fall in love online. But we know what it feels like don't we? It feels like it felt for Humphrey Bogart and Ingrid Bergman. It's like it was for Alfie and Kat, or Katie and Peter. But perhaps not always.
You see Blind Love is even more obsessive and destructive than the Hollywood template. It's love with no reason. A love with only one feasible outcome. An unhappy ending.
But who am I to say that this is psychologically damaging and that these people aren't really happy? The way that I 'love' might not be Hollywood and it might not be blind but it isn't right either.
Blind Love is the ultimate emotional extreme.
Who can say that isn't the best way to love?
